Here are some of the takeaways we discussed in our episode:

• Be mindful of the stage of development your child is in, and consider that while

managing them.

• Use active and reflective listening techniques, using phrases like “I see” and “I

wonder.”

• Voice modulation: if you are an adult, think about the tone of your voice.

• Sometimes, parents offer a choice when there isn’t one. If no option exists, avoid

the impulse to add “okay?” at the end—this might imply that dialogue is possibly

an option.

• Be consistent.

• Set a good example with personal self-care.

• Reading books together can facilitate conversation between you and your child, here are some book recommendations:

  • When Sophie Gets Angry

  • Pip's Magic

  • Ruby Finds A Worry

  • The Rabbit Listened

• Create a coping “toolkit” of strategies – i.e., deep breathing, blowing bubbles,

fidgets. Find what works for your child. For example, drinking through a straw can

calm some kids down. For more active kids try wall push-ups.

• There are no “bad” emotions.

• When a child is in an emotionally dysregulated state, don’t attempt to reason with

them.

• Use play scenarios to help kids work out issues.

• Have a feelings poster.

• Reflect with your child on what happened afterward – when they are calmer.